I smell like fish

I'm on the button with AQd.  One raise in late position and I make the call.  The BB also calls.  Flops comes Ah4s5s.  Raiser bets out 30 and I don't believe it.  I call.  BB calls.  Turn comes 2s.  Raiser now checks and I move in for 94.  BB thinks and eventually calls.  Now the raiser has to go into the tank and decide what to do.  Finally he mucks the AcKd.  BB shows 3c5c for the wheel.  River is the 7c.  Blah.  How bad am I?